Alexandra Wildfire - Femdom in London
My approach to BDSM
I am often asked how I started in BDSM and why I became a Mistress. So, to answer those who have yet to ask and perhaps cast some light on my dark side and how it has led me to be the person I am today, here is my answer for you.
Many people can point to an exact date or a particular formative event that drew them into BDSM. However, I know many others, like me, find it harder to pick a single point in time. When I was younger, I always knew that there was something missing, something my subconscious knew it needed but was lacking in my life. Somewhere between the occasional and the somewhat random kink experiences in my life my yearning for BDSM grew more pronounced, and by the time I watched my first BDSM film, it became engrained deeply within me (if you are curious, coincidently, it was shortly after I moved to London that “Preaching for the Perverted” was re-released).
pEver since, I have been (and still am!) fascinated by all things BDSM, including a deep interest in both the emotional complexities and the underlying psychology of my fellow explorers in this fun and deviant world. That interest eventually led me to become a Mistress, a profession perfectly matched to my insatiable BDSM curiosity and my natural exploratory nature. This, in turn, is reflected in my own approach to BDSM.
I also firmly believe that BDSM should always be fun and enjoyable – at its basic level. As such, I am not a cold and aloof Mistress who wants someone to grovel at her heeled boots, and I most definitely do not adhere to the old adage of a Dominatrix being someone who “hates men”. Creating a genuine dynamic is far more satisfying than any false masquerades.
Being able to understand and utilise the psychological aspects of submission is something I consider to be both a fun and crucial aspect of my role as a Femdom. I enjoy discovering what makes my subs tick and – just as importantly – why! And so, I take as much delight in guiding the first steps of the curious novice as in leading the experienced players into the darker and more deviant recesses of the BDSM kink world.
Femdom expertise
I am a Lady who knows her craft.
I understand that you come to see a Professional Dominatrix not only because you want to submit to a beautiful Lady but also because you expect domination at a professional level. This is absolutely crucial – after all you are entrusting me with your mind and body. Well, look no further – this is exactly what I provide.
Being a Domme requires a lot of skill, experience, and knowledge about BDSM, all of which I have gained through various thematic workshops, extensive private professional tuition and tireless research. Not to mention the countless hours of practising and honing my skills before I even became a Pro – I am not simply “a blonde with a whip”, nor a woman with attitude who just bought a flogger to whack you with.
I constantly read and educate myself about all things BDSM, kink and fetish, in part because I care to do my job properly, but also because I simply take pleasure in doing so. I carefully researched and learned the various fetishes and forms of BDSM I offer (as well as more pragmatic things such as health and safety) before becoming a Professional Mistress – which allows me to give you the best and safest experience possible.
I firmly believe that a good BDSM technique is a skill not only essential to every Mistress but also something that should be learnt to operate safely, with maximum effect, and for the most fun. For professionals, this also includes the essential aspects of understanding various psychological types of submissives (and modifying the approach towards each type accordingly), or creating narrative arcs.
As such I now offer both pro Mistress, private and couples and BDSM workshops (find more information about my workshops).
Now that you know my professional side, I invite you to find out more about me as a person.